The Diary of a Swinger Reveals It's Not for Everyone

Scottish writer Ewan Morrison recently published a book about his experiences as a newbie Swinger. The book is called "Swung," and philosophically explores the motivation behind people who choose to have sex with strangers. Here is how he reflects on the experience, after realizing it was not for him.

"My year of swinging ended before I completed my book.

I felt I had to stop and take stock and that a novel would be the vehicle for that. The year ended with a prior stage of escalation - an invitation to an orgy at which I realised I'd get much more from it if I was really in love with a partner.

"My partners had been explorers, not lovers. I was not in love - but I think in that year I learned to love people more, to be more compassionate, more accepting of difference. My year of swinging ended with many new friends who were no longer lovers. Each of us, generally, moved on. Joanne now has a partner and a child. Sally has an ongoing relationship with a couple.

Which leads me to believe that swinging is, for the committed core, a lifestyle that they live day in, day out. But, for the majority who pass through the websites, it is a stage gone through for a year or so, a volatile one filled with questions about boundaries. Who am I? How will I live? Can I be happy? Can I love? What is love?

Swinging is not so much an answer as a question asked deeply - for, as many philosophers say, the only questions worth asking should place your life, and your body, at the heart of the question. "